Sunday, October 14, 2012

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DEAR WOMBMATE!

 
Today is my twin sister's birthday, which means it's my birthday, too, of course. ☺ I love this picture of us as babies. I'm on the right, and Dayle is on the left.
 
Explaining the bond we share is almost impossible to do. Two people with identical DNA has to be experienced, I suppose. However, I've written about our relationship on two different occasions.

In 2009, I was part of the book: "Chicken Soup for the Soul: Twins and More." My story was titled "Weirdly in Sync," and I share in detail how weirdly in sync Dayle and I have been since birth, starting with the one heartbeat Mother's doctor heard throughout Mother's pregnancy. (Surprise! It's two babies, not one!)

As my story reveals, Dayle and I weren't just weirdly "in sync," we were just plain weird. We ate dirt, we chewed on wood, and our communication skills were...well...nobody could understand a word we said.

Mother often used the process of elimination to determine what tale we were weaving, but it might take her days to completely figure it out. If you're intrigued beyond containment, go buy the book, or maybe I'll tell the rest of that story in another post. (Smile.)

The article I'm sharing below was published in 2002 in Reflections magazine. Dayle and I were asked to write our thoughts about each other, and I think this piece comes closest to describing the emotions I feel for Dayle. I hope it gives you a bit of insight into the bond of identical twins.

Happy birthday, dear wombmate. I'm glad you were born with me. ♦
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It’s 3 o’clock in the morning. Dayle and I have just finished our third consecutive game of Scrabble, but neither of us is anxious to retire. Come daybreak, I’ll be going home. Sleeping can wait.
 
 My Scrabble partner is a reflection of me in so many ways. Born seven minutes apart, we have the same nose, same eyes, same hair, same fingers and same feet. We talk alike, walk alike and laugh alike.
 
 I can’t imagine life without Dayle.
 
Once, when we were kids, we lost sight of each other in Piggly Wiggly. It was a game of hide-and-seek and Dayle was “it.”
 
After searching everywhere for her wayward twin, she rounded the produce aisle, saw her own reflection in a mirror and hollered, “There you are!”
 
As I observe her across the table tonight, I find myself saying those same three words: There you are.
 
You! My beloved womb mate. You! My God-created clone. I love you more than words can say.
 
I love the way you look in that yellow housecoat. I love the way your hair is piled on your head, with only a pencil holding it in place.
 
I love how you scowl as you shuffle your letters back and forth, hoping to make a high-point word out of “psvjooo.”

I love laughing with you, drinking coffee with you, doing nothing with you.
 
 
You’ve been a compass to me in times of confusion. A haven to me in times of storm. An encourager to me in times of doubt and dissatisfaction.
 
What a glorious gift you are.
 
I wish I lived next door, but I don’t. In a few hours, I’ll pack my things and drive away. But that’s OK.
 
No matter how far from you I am, I’m never without you. Like threads joined together in a piece of crochet, my heart is forever intertwined with yours. All I have to do is breathe, and there you are. ♦

9 comments:

  1. This essay always makes me smile. I love you forever and always!

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  2. Beautiful article. For those of us who aren't blessed to have an identical twin, this is a wonderful description.

    Happy birthday!

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  3. You are both so very lucky to have the relationship that you share!

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  4. I know twins from my childhood and they are awesome. They had there own language and world it is hard to infiltrate ^_^. You are gorgeous!

    Kim,USA

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  5. Very sweet thoughts.
    My daughter is married to an identical twin - "twinship" is definitely a unique club.

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  6. So I'm two days late to the party, and I just realized it. HAPPY BIRTHDAY anyway! I love what you wrote about Dayle and the experience of being "womb mates". It's an exclusive club that you get to be in. What a blessing!

    (Now, I need to hop over to that other place and visit a certain womb mate who is another year older. )

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