Friday, November 8, 2013

Sexual Lust - A Devious and Deadly Thing

A few years ago, I saw a couple that I hadn't seen in a while. They were all smiles as they chatted with everyone in the room, but I found it hard to smile along. I knew that lust had brought them together, and that their actions had destroyed two families, leaving injured spouses and innocent children staggering through the wreckage like abandoned refugees. No matter how happy the couple might have been, I wasn't happy for them.

Sexual lust is a devious and deadly thing, and it has, undoubtedly, destroyed more homes in this country than all the tornadoes combined.

It starts silently, tiptoeing through the mind, looking for a place to weave its luring and wicked webs. It can't hang around without permission, of course, but if it's given one square inch of space, it mushrooms into this raging, almost unstoppable force, turning sensible people into senseless slaves, willing to do anything in order to dine at the table of forbidden fruit.

In some cases, that forbidden fruit is pornography. In other cases, it's someone else's spouse. In either case, the intoxicating grip of sexual lust knows no bounds.

While attending a seminar recently, I met a man who had been completely imprisoned by pornography.  It consumed everything he did, ultimately destroying his marriage and his career. I've also read numerous accounts of lust-filled spouses, gunning down anyone standing in their way—husbands, wives, children, parents, bosses, friends. Nothing is sacred once lust moves in.

And sadly, anywhere human beings are gathered, sexual lust is just a thought away...a wink extended gaze away.

It might seem extreme to some, but after my divorce in 2002, I made a deliberate choice not to pal around with married couples, no matter how close the wives and I might have been. It was a decision I made out of respect for their marriages. It had nothing to do with trust. Everyone trusts themselves, I suppose, but none of us wear halos.

In his New Testament epistle, James writes: "Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death."

Without question, sexual temptation is a beast of a battle to fight, and it often strikes without warning. However, Scripture tells us that God is faithful, and whenever lustful thoughts come sneaking through our heads, hoping to find room and board, a way of escape will be provided for those who seek one. ♦

“Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.” Psalm 19:14

I'm sharing my thoughts at Spiritual Sundays, where people of faith can be found.


  1. Your words, " lust is just a thought away...a wink extended gaze away." is so true.
    I've witnessed this and was surprised with horror.
    It could start with just an extended gaze.

  2. I love that verse from Psalms 19. It's one of my favorites, and I think it's a good word that you ended your post pointing people there.

  3. Gayle, thank you so much for having the boldness to post about this subject.

  4. Gayle, I knew you were an extremely talented writer but this off the charts. I wish it would go viral--it's a message that is so badly needed by our world. Thank you.

  5. So, so spot on, Gayle. No time to comment further, but this touched my life when my parents divorced nearly 30 years ago. Devastating. Daddy was so blind... :o/


  6. Gayle, I am so very glad I didn't miss this one. You speak such a strong truth, and I have seen it time and time again in my own corner of the world. I prayed a couple close to me through a horrible storm a few years ago. I could very literally feel the forces of evil trying to pull the husband into that web.. I'm thankful to say that the fervent prayers of people who loved him/them, helped bring the family back together, but it wasn't without great consequence that only a mighty God has been able to handle. Too often, it has been the opposite case with us as we've lost "couple friends" to divorce when lust moved it. We are well aware that we are not immune to this so guard ourselves as well. I've found that lust is no respecter of persons and will grab anyone it can.

    I love and greatly admire your commitment to the marriages of others. You have an incredible heart.